Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:24-25
Marriage should be the start of a whole new life. Men need to be ready to support their wife before they get married. This gets lost today. I am not talking about keeping women home and out of the workforce. If both husband and wife work, they still should be able to support themselves before they get married. But too many times a couple gets married and then moves in with one set of parents. There is always an excuse. Maybe they are staying with her parents until they can afford their own house. Maybe they are living with his parents until they pay off student loans or save enough for that new car they have their eyes on.
Now emergencies happen and people lose jobs but these are not emergencies. Emergencies do not last for years. Of course a lot of the problem is with the parents. We just want to help. But instead of help we end up keeping our children dependent on us. But part of life and marriage is getting through the hard times together. We cannot continue to shield or kids from hard times forever. At some point we need to let them go and learn how to live on their own.
God know this. So we find in Genesis God telling us that when we marry we need to go out on our own. He gives us our spouse to help us get through the rough time. We have each other to cling to when time get hard and in doing so we grow together and we grow up together. It may sound foreign in today’s culture but we need to learn that sometimes we need to wait for things. We do not need to gratify every desire. But the world tells us to get it now, don’t wait. You deserve that fancy home or that super widescreen TV. We want it all and we want it right now.
Of course when Adam and Eve got together they had one thing extra going for them. Sin had not yet found its way into the world. Unfortunately that would not last.
Have a blessed day,