So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. 2 Timothy 2:22-25
When you are trying to persuade someone to come around to your point of view, the last thing you want to do is get into a heated argument. Once that happens each side just digs in further and neither will listen to the other’s point of view. In fact, in most cases any gains that may have been made will be lost. Too often things are said in the heat of the moment that can never be retracted.
You cannot argue someone into heaven and you cannot bully someone to accept Christ. Too often we are so focused on winning the argument that we end up losing to soul. We cannot be focused on scoring debate points when we are trying to move someone away from darkness and into the light. If you have ever listened to a debate, when it is over neither side has moved from their starting point. Each is equally convinced that their position is still strong.
Once again Paul tells us how we should handle ourselves in this situation. When we are trying to get someone to move from an incorrect position to a correct position we need to do so with gentleness. We should be persuading not arguing. We need to move people in baby steps not giant leaps. They need to feel we have their best interests in mind. They need to know we care about them, that they are not another notch on our belts. People will respond to kindness and love but run from aggression and anger.
Rather than argue theology with them, invite them to some fun activity at your church or maybe a Christian concert. Maybe have them over to your house to mingle with your Christian friends. Show them Christ through your actions rather than tell them about Him. Then when they see Christ in you and start to ask questions then you can fully explain Christ to them and how He has changed your life.
Have a blessed day,