So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:21-23
Sometimes we spend so much debating points such as was Eve really created out of one of Adam’s ribs that we may miss important things God is telling us. For example, whether you choose to believe today’s verses literally or not don’t miss out on the fact that man and woman are incomplete without each other. We are all bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. When a man and woman marry they become one flesh, we become complete.
It is this oneness of marriage that makes divorce such a bad thing. When we divorce we rip apart one being that God put together. Jesus gives us the only reason we may divorce, sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9). In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul adds that one may divorce an unbelieving spouse if the unbelieving spouse refuses to live with the believing spouse. Nowhere in the Bible does it tell us we can divorce because our spouse no longer makes us happy or we have just gone in different directions. God put man and woman together and He expects us to stay together except in some very limited circumstances.
Today’s verses show us the oneness of marriage but they also show a hierarchy in marriage. In any group someone needs to make the final decision. In marriage it is supposed to be the man. Now far from a privilege it can be daunting. Guess what guys? God says we are to lead. That means we are to also conduct our lives in a godly manner. We are to make the final choice. Pretty scary. The good news is we do not have to make these decisions alone. God gave us a partner, a partner not a servant. In marriage we have someone to provide council, someone who is now part of us.
Marriage is something ordained by God. Not some manmade institution that can be changed on a whim. God has a specific plan on how we are to live and how families are to be ordered. Unfortunately we have not done a very good job of keeping marriage intact. We have let our families fall apart. We created the problem and we can fix the problem. We need to bring God back front and center in our lives. Only then will we get back to where God intended us to be.
Have a blessed day,