Below is the toast i tried to give at the wedding of our daughter Amy’s and our now son-in-law Jon’s wedding. I have to admit that I was a bit emotional with tears of joy. I did find out that with my old eyes reading through tears is a bit of a challenge.
I want to first thank all our friends and family for being with us today to celebrate the marriage of Amy and Jon. Every parent wants their child to find someone special to spend their lives with but a Christian parent wants something more. We want our children to find someone special who also is a Christian.
Gail and I have been blessed for God has sent both our daughters Christian men to be their husbands. But even more important to us is that they are Christian in deed as well as in name.
Jon, you are now head of a family. God has put a special burden on husbands. Paul tells us in Ephesians 5 that you are to head your family as Christ is head of the church, a tall order. You make the final decision but you do not need to do so alone.
Amy, Paul also tells the wife that you are to submit to your husband. In today’s world that is even a taller order. But your submission to Jon is as we submit to Christ, willingly. You are Jon’s helpmate and his equal.
Amy and Jon, God put the two of your together equally yoked not as a burden but so that with Christ as the driver you can accomplish much in your lives together. Toe unyoked will drift off in different direction. But yoked together they can pull a family in the correct direction.
God has given both of you some hard directives as to how to live as one. There will be disagreements and hard times. Sometime Jon, you will get tired of making all the decisions but you have Amy there to help with the decisions. Amy you will get tired of waiting on Jon to decide. But really if you paint to walls sea foam green or lime green it probably will not matter to Jon.
So how do you get past paint colors and all the other major decisions in married life? Love. In Ephesians Paul tell us how we should act in marriage but in 1 Corinthians he tells us how to accomplish that.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
If you live your lives together following what God has revealed to us through Paul’s writings then you will get through it together. It will not be easy but it will be interesting and fun.
Jon and Amy, I wish a long and happy life together bonded by the love of Christ, the love of your families for each of you and most importantly the love you have for each other. God bless both of you and have a blessed life.
Well, that is how I meant to say it and I think I got most of my ideas across.
Have a blessed day,